How to vent when you are stressed - and not hurt anyone!

We often 'vent' at people to 'offload' However, when we get stressed, there may not be anything physical to vent at resulting in either
a) venting at someone we love and then feeling guilty about it or
b) holding it all in
Neither option typically results in a good feeling!

So here is a way out.

Have you heard people talk about the devil on one shoulder and the angel on another? These are physical representations of thoughts. To have something to vent at, you need to create a similar image.

Now it doesnt matter what this image is - it may be a person, an animated character or even something abstract. Just close your eyes, imagine what stress looks like and then go with whatever image comes up. No-one is ever going to see this image so just trust your mind to show you how it sees stress!

And now with that image, you have something to vent at. When you are stressed, take yourself somewhere quiet (perhaps in your car) and have a go at the stress beast (or whatever it may be). You can shout out loud or just close your eyes and have that dialogue internally - it is all about telling him (or her, or 'it') what you are going through.

This may sound a bit abstract to you but it works! We all know about releasing bad feelings - whether that be anger, frustration, or other numerous emotions - whether it be shouting at someone, exercising it out or just having a long hot bath - and feeling better after it. This is all just the same, allowing you to make an intangible target into something you can 'vent' at!

And it works because your subconcious mind (where emotions live) cannot tell the difference between reality and imagination - and to prove that, if you imagined eating a slug, I bet you would pull a face, or even feel a bit sick - thats the power of the mind!  

So just by imagining venting at your stress buster, it has the same effect as venting in reality - but no-one gets hurt!

Caroline Cavanagh is a Clinical Hypnotherapist and author of Anxiety Alchemy.  She specialises in working with people struggling with anxiety to develop greater confidence

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